OPEN-MINDED

And non-judgmental
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People describe us both as humble, warm, loving, and open-minded. We think of people as individuals who have their own unique stories, emotions, fears, and dreams. We accept people for who they are because they are in fact; unique. 

As gay men (and Gordon being bi-racial), we are minorities and have faced discrimination throughout our lives. We think that’s why people tend to notice our openness. 

If we get to meet you, we promise to be open-minded, warm and loving, no matter what your story is. 

GRATEFUL

For all of our blessings.

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We have so many reasons to be grateful.  We like to remind ourselves to notice all of the good things in our lives; especially our family and friends and all of the fun experiences we get to share together.  

We both come from two-parent households. We share a strong community of friends and family. We are well-educated and are fortunate enough to have good jobs that we enjoy.

We LOVE being parents. Our little one inspires us to be even better people and encourages us to be patient, adaptable, and unconditional in our love.

Brian

Full of energy

Brian is a clinical psychologist in San Francisco and works for himself downtown. He helps people work through various struggles in their lives and helps them find relief in his kind and supportive approach. He truly loves his job and is excited by helping people feel better and live fuller lives. Outside the office, Brian loves going for runs and getting coffee with friends. He can often be found on his bike next to Gordon on the way to check out the fun new restaurant or bopping around town with our daughter in her stroller.

Gordon

LAID-BAck

Gordon is a software designer in San Francisco for a tech company. He enjoys being creative and working with his team to come up with new ideas and solve problems. When he’s not at work, he likes working on home projects, riding his bike everywhere, cooking, working out at the gym, and spending time with Brian and our daughter.

We met 10 years ago in San Francisco, when Brian was living there and Gordon was in town from New York City visiting a friend. The spark was immediate and we recognized that we shared many interests and values, such as; spending time with family and friends, traveling, biking, exploring new restaurants and coffee shops, and being silly and having a good laugh.  Early on in dating (LONG distance San Francisco → New York!), we both shared that one day we wanted to get married and have kids. Marriage wasn’t legal everywhere for us yet but we were both hopeful that one day it would be!

After about a year of long distance dating, Brian ended up moving to New York to be with Gordon. We lived there together for a couple years and enjoyed all that NYC had to offer. We built a strong group of friends together and eventually moved in and shared a home together. One day, while we were taking a bike ride together, Brian proposed to Gordon on the Williamsburg Bridge in the same spot where we took our first picture together four years previously. Gordon was in shock but gave a resounding “yes!” After, we headed back to our apartment where Gordon got another shock as 30 of our family and friends jumped out to surprise him!

About two years later, we got married in Chicago, surrounded by all of our loved ones.

We Are Home Study Approved

We have been approved by the State of California to be adoptive parents by a licensed social worker through Adopt International in San Francisco.

They completed extensive background checks, conducted multiple interviews, performed a home study, and examined personal recommendations from people who know us well.

The team we are working with has been helping birth families and adoptive families connect for many decades and are wonderful, welcoming people. We can also help you find trustworthy, confidential people to help you navigate this process.

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No Words

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There are no words that can explain how grateful we are for you. Whether you choose us or not, we are so thankful you have taken the time to consider us as an option for your baby! We know this is one of the biggest decisions of your life and can only imagine how much strength and bravery it takes.

We cannot even begin to understand. But, what we can do is make several promises to you, should you choose our family:

• We promise to always take care of your baby better than ourselves.

• We promise to raise them up to be proud of who they are and where they came from.

• We promise to constantly seek adventure with them and make all of the memories.

• We promise to be truly present with them; especially when they need us most.

• We promise to celebrate their accomplishments whether they are big or small.

And last, but certainly not least, we promise to love your baby exactly like they are our own.

Thank you for your brave and loving choice. We know it cannot be easy but we promise that if you choose us to be your baby's parents, they will always know how much they are loved.